What can be learned from jealousy?

Your friend gets engaged, a coworker receives a promotion or closes a big deal, an acquaintance is moving to Tahiti to pursue their dreams or your best friend falls in love and you are still single.  In these moments when we should be happy for our friends we sometimes feel that stab of jealousy.  This doesn't have to be a bad thing.  Of course you will congratulate them and support them but it is also an opportunity to look at your own life to see why this jealousy arose.  First of all lean into it, don't deny it, admit it, feel it.  How deep does it go? Is it fleeting or obsessive?  Is it directed at the person or the event?  This inquiry is necessary if you want to figure out what lies beneath.  The next step is to source out what might be missing from your life, what need of yours is not getting met or is there some resentment you are holding on to?  Often times we blame the person, he/she doesn't deserve it, look what he/she had to give up for it, it will never work out, but this is only a way out because we don't want to confront our own feelings.

There is so much to be learned in these situations, do not let these opportunities slip away.  Get quiet, listen to your heart, the answers are there for you.  What you find could change your life.  You might be stuck in a job you dislike, a relationship going nowhere, given up on your dreams or feel you don't deserve good things in your life.  Awareness is huge! You cannot change anything until you are aware of it.  With this awareness you can begin to take steps, one at a time to fill your unmet needs, release your resentment and make the changes you need to, even if it is only your thoughts that need changing. All emotions contain a lesson, learn it or become a slave to them.  I don't know about you but I would much rather learn from them and experience the emotional freedom that comes along with that.  I encourage you - become aware, become an inquirer, become FREE!!