__________-POSITIVE. What was the positive emotion that lies opposite guilt? As we always tend to do these days I started my Google search! I started writing out words that were discussed as opposites to find one that resonated with me. I tried out a few; self satisfaction, innocent, contentment, acceptance, deserving. Then I read the following entry from a blog post and since I couldn't say it any better myself, I will share it here with you:
I was recently
asked a great question ‘What’s the opposite of Guilty?’ I immediately took the
context to mean when I feel guilty about something what’s the opposite of that –
after a bit of thinking I came up with Contentment – which didn’t really feel
quite right and encompassed a lot of other feelings, happy with my decisions,
knowing I was doing the right thing, understanding why I was doing what I was
doing.
Then the question put to me was ‘isn’t innocence the opposite of guilt?’. Which I couldn’t disagree with and it got me thinking about the difference between being guilty and feeling guilty. The first one could be said to be quite simple – in a court of law it works that you are either one or the other. However, being that us Human beings are complicated creatures, all that changes when we start thinking about how we feel. How often have you gone through a customs check, knowing that you’ve not gone over any limits and yet still walk through feeling guilty!
Feeling guilty can come about when we start living by our should, shouldn’t, must, mustn’t rules which normally means we are looking for someone or something to blame for what is happening, or not happening, around us. As with all our feelings they are manifested by us, we choose how we want to feel, so why would we want to choose to feel guilty if it’s not useful to us?
I think the first part of changing how we feel is to take responsibility for our own actions and understand that in each moment we make the decision and act in a way that feels right in that moment – we may learn afterwards that it wasn’t the best decision and we can decide to do things differently in future, surely this is all about us growing as individuals and blaming ourselves or others will only keep us in the same place – is that useful?
So the next time you feel guilty about something, what are you going to do to change how you feel, what feeling would be more useful to you?
Then the question put to me was ‘isn’t innocence the opposite of guilt?’. Which I couldn’t disagree with and it got me thinking about the difference between being guilty and feeling guilty. The first one could be said to be quite simple – in a court of law it works that you are either one or the other. However, being that us Human beings are complicated creatures, all that changes when we start thinking about how we feel. How often have you gone through a customs check, knowing that you’ve not gone over any limits and yet still walk through feeling guilty!
Feeling guilty can come about when we start living by our should, shouldn’t, must, mustn’t rules which normally means we are looking for someone or something to blame for what is happening, or not happening, around us. As with all our feelings they are manifested by us, we choose how we want to feel, so why would we want to choose to feel guilty if it’s not useful to us?
I think the first part of changing how we feel is to take responsibility for our own actions and understand that in each moment we make the decision and act in a way that feels right in that moment – we may learn afterwards that it wasn’t the best decision and we can decide to do things differently in future, surely this is all about us growing as individuals and blaming ourselves or others will only keep us in the same place – is that useful?
So the next time you feel guilty about something, what are you going to do to change how you feel, what feeling would be more useful to you?
-copied from blog.essentii.co.uk
In the end the word I chose to put opposite Guilt as the Positive emotion was DESERVING. What do you choose?
Mantra: "I certainly know I deserve to manifest instantaneously"
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