The need to be right.
Tracy
tracyswisdomtree@gmail.com
The need to be right.
Tracy
When COVID hit, suddenly we couldn't see down the
road very far so we lifted our heads and looked around. What we saw were many
different side roads that we hadn't noticed before as well as a big parking
lot. Some of us chose to take a side road; learning a new process or skill set
we hadn't considered. Some of us were forced down one of those roads, adapting
to new ways and protocols. And others pulled over into that parking lot and
made a choice to wait it out and watched others drive by, either with criticism or encouragement. What we
all forgot in that moment is that all roads lead to the same place - EVOLUTION.
Evolution of mind, evolution of body and evolution
of spirit.
When the urgency of COVID is over there will be much discussion about it all. But one thing will be certain, each one of us and the collective will have grown; and the process of evolution will continue as it has for millions of years. So we can choose to see the good or the bad, the positive or the negative, the kindness of people or the selfishness. . . . But hopefully we can all see the wisdom of this shared experience, and come out of it just a little more EVOLVED.
This led me to remember another thing I had heard as I was contemplating
why it is so difficult for us to do things that are good and healthy for
ourselves. A teacher I follow said it is
because we are taught at a very young age that what we do has more value if it
is recognized by others.
It got me thinking, what do these three memories have in common and what guidance are they here to provide me?
Perhaps what we are seeking from somewhere or someone outside of ourselves, we already have and just aren’t aware of it, and if so what are the barriers to seeing/experiencing it?
Maybe my purpose in the world is not to be the best person I can be, maybe I already am.
Maybe the person I am showing the world is not really my true
self.
Maybe I am still a scared child waiting for repercussions.
Maybe it is only my minds perception that I am not accepted
for who I really am.
Maybe I am already loved and accepted for exactly who I am,
but my self doubt and judgement is making it impossible to feel.
Maybe if I get quiet and still enough, I will feel that love
and acceptance.
Maybe if I turn off the constant self criticism, I will
remove one barrier.
Maybe if I accept myself exactly as I am right now, I will
remove another barrier.
And maybe if I love myself, despite my perceived mistakes, flaws,
and judgements, past and present.
Then maybe, just maybe, I will remove one hell of a big barrier.
Maybe One just needs to have Faith!
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.
Lately I have been contemplating the word “enough”, it originally came up to me when I became aware of my own behaviors and other peoples, that screamed “I am not enough”. I found this sad; why do we all feel like we are not enough? Have enough? Do enough? Be enough? I wondered; is this a human construct, a societal construct, a religious construct?
Why do people live in 100 million dollar houses while others live in garbage bins?
Why do we idolize movie stars, professional athletes,
billionaires?
Why do people give up their own needs to constantly help
others and turn them into projects?
Why do we want to make other people wrong and ourselves
right?
Why are we dissatisfied with our work, our homes, our
community, our world?
Why do we need to tell everyone what good we are doing, or
post it on social media?
Why do we criticize and judge other people for the same insecurities
that we do not want to admit to in ourselves?
Why do we overspend and then beat ourselves up for it later?
Or hoard and stock up?
Why do we watch other people do good deeds and feel like we
need to do the same or more?
Why are we in competition with others we see on social media
or television, and constantly compare?
Why do we feel like if we have more money, travel more, shop
more, have a different partner . . . we
will be happy?
When is enough ENOUGH?
What would happen if we all brought some awareness to this
issue, could we slowly but surely become happy with what we have, where we
live, who we are?
Would we stop judging, hoarding, comparing, overspending,
indulging . . . would we be happier,
content, more peaceful?
Can we BE happy with “right now”, with “what we have”, with “who
we are”?
When I can . . . then
enough will be ENOUGH for me.